Marriage Counseling for Infidelity Recovery

Changing Behaviors The way we express or do not express out anger can interfere with our relationship health You can use the format form the article to help you with your communication when you are working on the healing from Infidelity. It contains a concise communication format from my Program for Relationship Healing and Enhancement. I have submitted an article at this site on Communication for Couples.
The cheating partner can help the hurt partner feel heard and validate the pain. The hurt partner can express themselves and tell the cheating partner how they are feeling without harming the relationship further. Communication is the next step and will help both partners communicate their feeling and needs. The partner who cheated must take responsibility for the behavior and the decision to step out of the agreed trust, even though they may feel there are “reasons” for the betrayal.
Only the hurt partner can determine how much. Time is needed here. The errant partner needs to take the lumps and say they are “sorry” if that is true. In this first step the hurt and pain being felt by the partner who was cheated on needs to be validated and heard.
By that I mean admitting there was a breach of trust, a broken promise, a lack of integrity. Honesty is imperative here. Obviously the first step to recovery from infidelity if finding out there was an affair. It takes communication, commitment, time, effort, energy, and attention. If both partners want the relationship to continue they can actually make it stronger and better.
An affair can be looked on in the same way. They then become stronger and healthier avoiding a massage and fatal heart attack. They usually then begin to pay attention, take care of themselves, and use the tools give by the professional. When a person has a small heart attack, they go for professional help. An affair can be like a small heart attack.
Most of the time, if both partners want recovery, the relationship can actually be stronger and more fulfilling after an affair has happened. Sometimes this damage is irreparable. Committed relationships are damaged when infidelity occurs. Counseling is important to, not only have a third objective person, but to get tools for communication, resolution of issues, exploring family patterns, exploring personal needs, and ways to establish personal rights and boundaries. Success will be improved by professional help and suggestions.
Relationship recovery from infidelity can be successful. If your partner wants to heal the relationship, you can work together and communicate effectively to help you work through to the other side. You personally will have to take it step by step honoring your own needs and strengths and weaknesses. No one can give you a magic potion or quick answer to recovery.
Our personality will color our recovery. Our own health, mental and emotional, will determine our ability to move on. If we were abused, betrayed, abandoned, neglected, or had our trust betrayed in our growing up years and have not dealt with or done healing around this issue, it will be more difficult to recover from betrayal in an adult relationship. Our own personal history is a basis for how well we will recover. There are many aspects to personal recovering from a breach of trust.
The partner who was “cheated” on may have for a while, what may seem, extremely tight boundaries for the other partner. It take the partner who broke the trust looking at the why and taking steps to make sure there is not another incident. It takes both partners actively working on whatever is needed. To heal broken trust it takes time.
Having relationship with another person that takes your attention, time, energy, finances, or caring away from your primary partner is then an affair. Broken trust is extremely hard to heal. When that trust is broken you may feel betrayed, rejected, uncared about, and unloved. What does “Infidelity” mean “Marriage,” usually means that you trust someone you love to care about you, be true to you, to have integrity within your relationship, and to put the couple relationship above all other relationships. Fidelity refers to the accuracy and integrity of self-representation, honesty or candor in an intimate, committed relationship.
Even within a close relationship, people might have very different ideas and perceptions of infidelity. It does not depend on the presence of sexual behavior. “Infidelity,” according to Wikipedia, is a breach of faith, and occurs in a number of contexts.